|1986, Hua mountain in China.
It isone of the most dangerous places
in the world. I wish I could that again.
Change is not an easy task, especially when we talk about changing our life styles. And if the lifestyles are directly related to our personalities, changing them would take a life time to accomplish, or, it’s simply a mission impossible.
The reason I bring this topic is because it seems like I need to do some serious change in my life, otherwise I may forever live with my chronic illness.
Just a while ago, I discovered some Chinese herbs that made some tangibly positive effects on me. I am very certain and very happy about this discovery. However, my progress has not been a straight up line, but up and down. This, I realized, was caused by my personality: I always “overestimate” my condition, overdo what I am actual capable of, so at the end my actions overdraw my energy, lead to “crashing” down, for days, some time weeks. This would happen more often when I knew my condition was improved.
Had I not taken all these risks would my condition be different? I simply don’t know, because my condition is so weak that the “risks” I am talking about here were literally nothing by normal standards, such as walking 10 minutes more, or shopping one more store, etc. Also, the line between “able” and “not able” is extremely blurry during recent years of my illness. However, I do remember many time, when I reached a point that I hesitated about doing or not doing, continuing or not continuing, I usually choose former, and then suffered consequence later, almost without exceptions. So the question is, why couldn’t I choose the latter?
There is a Chinese old saying: “changing the world is easier than changing a personality”(江山易改本性难移). I now have full understanding of this adage. I guess for all my first half of life I have accustomed to this “toughness”, fearlessness or even recklessness, and fully identified myself with such character: this, is who I am and without being like this, I am nothing but a living dead. But now, it seems just opposite: I am half dead by being “myself”. Now I know that many people are lucky because they do not have to change their personality, because risking character or adventurous spirit is something fun to possess. Yes, I like to be adventurous, and I also had fun for 30 some years in my life, but now, the reality I am facing is, being myself, or suffering consequence. The truth is, I had already changed in a great deal, people who knew me 20 years ago (even 10 years ago) would hardly believe who I am now (of course, the “change” still is just physical wise, inside I am exactly the same person). But it seems not enough. My physical condition requires me to act like a complete reserved and “timid” person who must always choose not risking, always tell people and myself “no, I can’t”, instead of “yes I can!” (NO MATTER HOW TERRIBLE IT SOUNDS TO SOME “POSITIVE” PEOPLE).
Can I do that? I am not sure, but I like to try (guess I already made progress here :-), because this is by far the last hope I’ve got, if I wanted to live healthily, if I wanted to be that “original self”.