June, I Said Hello to the Sun

When the first wave of summer heat camein June, I set out alone

to greet the Sun

I wanted to see how faraway the horizon stretched

I wanted to know how tall maples and pines grew

I relished exuberant color of green

I rode on swift gusts of wind

The dandelion on the sidewalk – whom I secretly loved

nodded to me without knowing my ambition

Roaming clouds – whom I adored unreservedly,

joined my journey without knowing my destination

Oh June, I said hello to the Sun

with mighty zest

telling her that I was ready to write

another song of

myself

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Is Money Important?

Just because that money ALONE is not enough does NOT mean money is not important. As matter of fact, since humans invented money for the more complicated trading (than barter), making money has been the most important means for us to survive. So if we agree that survival is the most important thing for our life, money naturally becomes the most important thing in our life.

So people who say money is confused about the difference between sufficient condition and necessary condition.

(Sorry that I currently do not have any more mature thoughts to write. lol)

The Sun The Moon and Taking Things for Granted

I just read a Chinese parable another day. It says an old man was asked which one is more important, the Sun or the Moon. The old man thought for a long while and answered “the Moon”.

“Why?”

“Because the Moon shines in the night when we especially need it; the Sun shine in the day when it’s already light.”

I found it inspiring. Taking thing for granted seems to be a major disposition of humans. Yesterday I read another article on facebook, about a 104 year-old Japanese doctor’s health advices. While I appreciated most of them, one advice struck me hard: “Energy does not come from sleeping a lot or eating well, it comes from feeling good” Well, I hope the doctor did not mean literally (or maybe the translation wasn’t accurate due to the confusion of Japanese language?), because the fact in front of me is that if we don’t eat and sleep but just feeling good, we die, and die with horrible feeling. As simple as that.

To be specific humans’ energy does come from foods. Sleep doesn’t provide energy but the importance of it is also crucial to our health.

Since I lived with chronic health problem for ages, I found, people – of course include me – tend to take physical health for granted. We apprise our mental power so much to an extend that some people literally believe feeling good is all we need to live well. The belief in our mental power is also out of proportion. During Chinese cultural revolution, a famous slogan was “The field produces as much crops as people want.” Nowaday a popular phrase goes “There are nothing you can’t do but only what you can’t imagine.” Such beliefs go on and on and it is call positive thinking and it’s panacea for all diseases and fuel for all ambitions.

Why people so insist the importance of our mental energy? I suppose the reason is exactly the same as that old man who says the Moon is more important than the Sun, that is: like the Sun, foods and sleep are there almost EVERYDAY, so we ignore the benefit of them, forgot that if we don’t have them there will be no chance for our mental power exercise.

The the Chinese article that cites the parable story above also talks about mother’s love, another thing that many people take it for granted. Yes, I believe physical health is like mother’s love, we only realize it’s importance when we lose it.

The Moon Shines in the night, brings us romantic imagination and fascination, so and so, but it’s the Sun who stays there day and light, provides the most important elements for our existence, which made all those romantic stuff possible. Yet, when we enjoy these “luxuries”, we think those are all it’s about and don’t give credit to something that’s more essential. Why? I don’t know but I suppose that shortsightedness is the flaws we humans are born with.

Spread Love, Not Hatred

Yesterday, I went to public library to vote. In voting room I saw a teenager working there who looked familiar. So I asked her:”Do I know you somewhere?” “Maybe”, she said, with a voice of boy. Instantly I realized her face looked identical to a student I taught long time ago, so I gave her a hint:”I teach art.” “I was in your art classes.” “R****!” I called out her name, though with low voice. She gently nodded.

I found, not only her hair was short, her voice was also totally changed. So I thought that she must be going through sex change. However, after we talked a little, I hurried to finish my voting business, then said goodbye to her.

On the way back I talked about this with my girlfriend, who was driving. She said I might be a little imprudent by mentioning HIS previous name, because he might not want to people know about it. I agreed. I also thought, after all these years, he was still a teenager, going through sex change he must suffer both physically and mentally, and my reaction of meeting him seemed a bit “cold”. So I told my girlfriend that I wanted go back to give him a hug. Instantly, she turned the wheel around.

Back in voting room I walked directly to him and said:”I came back because I owe you a hug.” He broke into a wholehearted smiled and we hugged, during which I told him that I was proud of him. Then we exchanged some more words and I said goodbye again.

Long time ago I read Ellen Degeneres’ mother’s biography Love, Ellen, in which she wrote about the moment when Ellen confessed to her about her lesbian secret. Her reaction was giving her daughter a hug, because what jumped in her mind first, was that her daughter had been suffering. I could never forget this detail of the book, because it made such a striking contrast with many of those parents who ditched their gay children.

I do not have children, but I am proud of what I did yesterday.

Yes, let’s spread LOVE, not hatred.

Unconditional Love and Self-esteem – A Psychological Study of Child Abuse Victims’ Emotional Journey

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unconditional. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We all need love. This is because that love make us feel connected to others, and this connection eases, or even eliminates our biggest fear: loneliness. Thus love becomes the greatest – sometime the only – reason for us to live.

But, unfortunately, love from others are not entirely secure. It comes and goes without warning and it’s not within our controls. This is because love from others usually is “conditional”, which means it happens only if we possess certain conditions, such as physical beauty, wealth, social status, etc. So without these conditions, we are in danger of losing love. But, if one possesses a type of love that is “unconditional”, he/she would feel the most secure in his/her life, because this love is provided regardless how he/she is, and stays with him/her as long as he/she lives. 

So where does unconditional love come from? I found that they mostly come from two sources: 1, parents; 2, one’s own.

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